Ideal Laws For Sustaining Loyalty in Married Life
Posted: Sunday, January 02, 2011
by Gary Zalben
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Are there infallible ways to keep your husband or wife loyal?
There are ideal laws for married life and understanding these laws can prevent a broken heart and shattered dreams. There is a moral plan of behavior for the husband and the wife. These plans of behavior came from the teaching of Paramahansa Yogananda a spiritual master. The average worldly person may find these rules either too lofty or difficult to follow, but these ideals are what works.
Every person attracts others based on the totality of their psychological temperament gathered as effects from past and present actions. A man who lived predominantly on the sexual plane in the past and in the present, it is almost guaranteed he will attract a female of comparable feelings and the same applies to a woman. In life we do get what we deserve. A man’s lower desires and vibrations should never be built around a woman and vice versa. If you do not find a spiritual partner, do not get married as you will not be loved, period.
There is one secret in protecting and sustaining marital life and that is the capacity to use self-control. By learning to live and love more on the spiritual plane rather than thinking and living constantly on the physical plane you will begin to connect as loving friends. You will achieve a great victory if you can keep your mate respectful, loving and inwardly loyal to you.
Plan of Moral Behavior for the Husband
The ideal husband who aspires to keep his life companion loving and loyal
should endeavor to live by the following principles:
Never let your wife think you have trade-marked her as your possession or
that you feel you own her.
Help her to feel that you are thankful to have whatever is given from her
soul.
Learn to appreciate and respect her friends and entrust in her the freedom to
select her own female friends.
Never forget her birthday and provide presents of articles that she needs that
demonstrate your caring instead of creating a state of opulence.
Never use foul language to your wife.
Never offend or insult her parents.
Never lie to her.
Never argue with you wife, particularly in front of others.
Never be harsh or use cruel language, but always use kind language in its
place.
Never be jealous of your wife.
Never make her life miserable by being a nag. If you can’t keep your
wife’s interest by love, nothing else can hold it.
Never insult or be sarcastic to her ever.
Always address your wife sweetly and with attention and dignity being
chivalrous at all times and by remembering to thank her for her kindness.
Do not wear out your welcome by spending all of your time with her. Keep
your spiritual life deep and your home life simple.
So she will spend wisely give her economic responsibilities. Encourage her
to spend less for luxuries and save more for your children, for herself and
for you. Inspire her to live an inexpensive and plain life by setting the
example yourself.
Try to lighten her load in the kitchen by providing the right kind of
accoutrements so she may improve upon her service as a mate,
companion and mother.
Eat healthful foods and maintain your body like an athlete.
So that you may share a fuller, richer life develop common interests with
your wife and children. Go out with her alone frequently and often with
your children.
Increase your daily progress with your wife in spiritual, mental and material
ways to increase happiness.
Practice all the laws of morality with your wife.
Share in positive inspiring discussions about music, writing, the arts and the
truth in spirituality.
When your wife is busy with her personal friends or important work, try not
to disturb her unnecessarily.
Everyone needs some solitude and a time of aloneness to deal with the
mountain of increasing stress in life.
Never stay in the same room or encroach upon each other’s space all the
time.
Plan of Moral Behavior For the Wife
That husband and wife may complete their needs for matrimonial joy.
The wife should remember the foregoing rules and strive to live by the following ideals:
In your intimate relationship make love the main aspect and through
spiritual studies live with your husband on a higher ethical plane.
Keep yourself well-groomed, clean, neat, and attractive like when you first
met.
Make an effort to keep him comfortable.
Make an effort to be economically thoughtful with your husbands earnings. Try to let him know you are doing this by different ways of saving money.
Give him more balanced meals with the right foods; fewer sweets and
pastries, more raw foods, some chicken or fish if necessary but no red
meat, pork or lamb. Tasteful and attractive meals has a lot to do with
marital happiness.
Never use harsh speech or be a nag.
Don’t ridicule him or speak ill about him to your female friends. Never
mock or find fault with him in front of his children, in public or private.
Don’t be sarcastic to your husband but influence him through your love and
silence.
If he morally wanders away, do not fight or nag him with sarcasm or
bitterness. Reform him by exercising kind attention and great love.
Spiritual Behavior For the Woman
For those who are more spiritual and who meditate remember the following:
When he is at home be a spiritual friend and companion by writing, reading,
singing, chanting and meditating together.
By meditating together the deeper your love will grow. By your example
you will win him by your exemplary life.
Live less on the sexual plane and more on the spiritual plane of devotion.
Spiritual Behavior For the Husband
Meditate together every morning and particularly in the evening.
Read spiritual books together and offer devotion to God by chanting with
each other.
Keep a small family altar for the wife, husband and children to gather in
deep devotion unto God.
The majority of young couples are attracted to each other because of their good looks and their common interests. For example the love of the same types of movies, sports and music or he or she could be a perfect business-companion. If you are excited and marry on impulse you can mistaken the pleasure of the senses for love and the beauty of good looks soon part after the good looks wane; a pretty face could then look pretty-ugly. When marrying for money humiliation goes with the territory for the man and the woman will become miserable because she will never be gratified with her mate. Marrying for social position too usually end in failure. Only Pure love is free from conditions and it beautifies the body and the mind.
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Gary Zalben - Original Author, Book titled How to Sell a Dead Horse
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Wow, this should be written in bronze and mounted high above the doorways in family court and above divorce court; there should also be a scout merit badge geared and attached to this.
Paul
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